#95: Lying - Part 1

Apr 18, 2025

We are starting to come to the final bend in the road for Season #7, before we take a break. In this episode - we talk about lying - something that comes up a lot with the gals I connect with on Instagram as well as one of the things that was posted more than once in the question box on IG when I asked for podcast suggestions.

 

What I always say is: women are willing to do the excruciating work of healing from betrayal - but the lying is what becomes an impasse.

 

Here is what we are going to walk through:

 

1 - What lying looked like for Jason growing up.

2 - Why we lie.

3 - What should she expect.

4 - Suggestions for men.

 

As Jason spoke about what lying looked like growing up - he made a fascinating statement: "I valued honesty but deceived myself when dishonesty served me.” Essentially - he was lying to himself which is such a big problem that liars deal with. He also said - “The more deeply entrenched

he was in his lying, the more he had to justify it in real life.”

 

Listening back to this episode gave me a deep feeling of unease with how sinister lying really is and how it corrupts us.

 

So why do we lie? Bottom line: it’s self-protective in an unhealthy way and its intimacy aversion at its finest. Jason also mentions that some of the why behind his lying was to protect me. I didn’t say this in the episode but as I listen to the replay - I don’t love what Jason is saying here - I realize he said: this isn’t a "feather in the cap" sort of thing - which I appreciate - but goodness, I just can’t get behind him lying to protect me…

 

We will be back next week with part 2 of lying.

 

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